boundaries are key

#ADHDawareness#ADHD#brainfogIn this episode I share the surprising journey I faced when I discovered I was misdiagnosed with ADHD, along with the impact on my personal life and my career as an engineering manager. We’ll explore the connection between symptoms of burnout, stress, depression, and anxiety – and how it can feel very similar to the stereotypical symptoms you read online about ADHD. My misdiagnosis created a lot of struggles because it created dependency and reliance on medication (Adderall) that was masking underlying issues – which forced me to rewire my brain after experiencing severe withdrawals. Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional or a psychiatrist. The information that I share in this video does not substitute for professional medical advice. This is simply my story and my personal experience with mental health and ADHD and how it impacted me. And if you’re looking to level up your leadership skills, book a FREE Connection Call with me! https://doughowardcoaching.as.me/Conn… Links Mentioned: 😱 Are You Feeling Stuck in Your Career? – Advice from an Engineering Manager [Escape Your Comfort Zone – Part 1 of 2]    • Are You Feeling Stuck in Your Career?…   💪 10 Ways to Accelerate Your Personal Growth – Advice from an Engineering Manager [Escape Your Comfort Zone – Part 2 of 2]    • 10 Ways to Accelerate Your Personal G…   😡 How to Deal With a Toxic Boss Without Quitting | Do These 3 Things | Advice from Engineering Manager    • How to Deal With a Toxic Boss Without…   😫 7 Steps to Recover from Engineering Burnout | Advice from an Engineering Manager    • 7 Steps to Recover from Engineering B…   🗣 Overcoming Burnout in Engineering & Tech | Strategies to Thrive in Your Career and Wellbeing    • Overcoming Burnout in Engineering & T…   📰 Subscribe to my email newsletter LEADING ENGINEERS – for the best tips, tools, and insights SPECIFICALLY FOR ENGINEERING LEADERS https://doughowardcoaching.clickfunne… More Ways to Connect: 🤝 LinkedIn:   / doughowardcoaching   🌐 Web-Site: https://doughowardcoaching.com/ 📧 Email: Doug@DougHowardCoaching.com #MentalHealth#burnout#ADHDawareness#ADHD#StressManagement#worklifebalance#misdiagnosed#depression#brainfog#engineeringmanagement About Me: I’m Doug Howard PE and I help engineering managers and leaders increase their impact by showing them how to influence, motivate, and inspire all types of people in any situation – professionally and personally! Leadership requires a whole different skill set that many engineers are never taught – because in most cases, you don’t have any positive role models to learn from. Meanwhile, traditional leadership training courses and books tell you WHAT to do in specific situations, and assume you’re naturally outgoing and people-oriented – but this doesn’t work for engineers… As an engineer, you need to understand HOW and WHY something works before you can absorb, adapt, and apply it in ways that work for you! This is why I developed my own leadership training framework around understanding human behavior and psychology – so that you can: ✅ Influence without having authority ✅ Understand and deal with all types of people ✅ Motivate people’s behavior and decision-making ✅ Adapt your communication style to match your audience ✅ Deliver constructive feedback that inspires positive changes ✅ Handle difficult people and emotional conversations ✅ Gain buy-in and win people to your way of thinking Today, I use this framework to teach engineers how to develop an effortless leadership style that is directly aligned with your core values, natural personality, and unique strengths – as well as utilize these skills to your advantage in every area of your life! I post new episodes every week – SUBSCRIBE to my channel if you don’t want to miss out on any of these insights! Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 INTRO 00:00:14 Misdiagnosed with ADHD Without Realizing It 00:02:21 Initial Symptoms and Behavior Changes 00:04:28 Adderall Felt Like a Magic Pill At First 00:05:59 Negative Side Effects of Adderall 00:08:44 How I Discovered I was Misdiagnosed With ADHD 00:10:41 Similarities Between Burnout and ADHD Symptoms 00:13:18 Now I Couldn’t Function Without Adderall – Low Energy and Focus 00:16:01 Recognize That the Symptoms of Burnout and ADHD Can Appear Similar

Jul 14, 2023 #toxicworkplace#softskills#softwareengineerMany engineers and engineering managers are stuck inside toxic work environments and working for bad managers. It’s a growing trend that’s creating many downstream problems because if you work for a bad boss in a toxic work environment for too long, it stunts your professional growth and destroys your confidence, mental health – and perhaps your career! For most people quitting or finding a new job isn’t always a realistic or timely option, but if you can’t avoid the problem it will only get worse. This video shows you 3 ways to take control over the situation – so that you can set clear boundaries with your bad manager, and use your bad boss to your advantage! — Are you an engineering manager to technical leader who’s ready to increase your impact and take your leadership skills to the next level? Book a FREE Connection Call with me! – https://doughowardcoaching.as.me/Conn… Links Mentioned: 🔥How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People    • How to Set Boundaries with Difficult …   🫣 How to Influence Without Authority at Work [Persuasion – Part 1 of 3]    • How to Influence Without Authority at…   👋 The Most Important Skill You Need for Persuading and Influencing People [Persuasion – Part 2 of 3]    • How to Influence Without Authority at…   🫣 Influence Anybody to Do Anything in 5 Steps! [Persuasion – Part 3 of 3]    • The Most Important Skill You Need for…   👋 How to Convince Your Boss to Let You Work From Home in 5 Steps | Tips from an Engineering Manager    • How to Convince Your Boss to Let You …   🫣 E29 – How to Deal with Difficult Employee as a New Manager | Advice for Engineering Leaders    • How to Deal with Difficult Employee a…   More Ways to Connect: 🤝 LinkedIn:   / doughowardcoaching   🌐 Web-Site: https://doughowardcoaching.com/ ✏️ Newsletter: https://doughoward.activehosted.com/f/1 📧 Email: Doug@DougHowardCoaching.com 🔥🔥FREE MINI MASTERCLASS🔥🔥: “MASTERING CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK”, remove the guesswork and stress by learning this proven framework for providing constructive feedback that drives real growth and empowers your engineering team! https://doughowardcoaching.clickfunne…#toxicboss#engineeringmanagement#toxicworkplace#Influence#softskills#toxicmanager#badboss#toxicworkenvironment#leadership#engineering#EngineeringCareer#softwareengineer#civilengineering#civilengineers#mechanicalengineering About Me: I’m Doug Howard PE and I help engineering managers and leaders increase their impact by showing them how to influence, motivate, and inspire all types of people in any situation – professionally and personally! Leadership requires a whole different skill set that many engineers are never taught – because in most cases, you don’t have any positive role models to learn from. Meanwhile, traditional leadership training courses and books tell you WHAT to do in specific situations, and assume you’re naturally outgoing and people-oriented – but this doesn’t work for engineers… As an engineer, you need to understand HOW and WHY something works before you can absorb, adapt, and apply it in ways that work for you! This is why I developed my own leadership training framework around understanding human behavior and psychology – so that you can: ✅ Influence without having authority ✅ Understand and deal with all types of people ✅ Motivate people’s behavior and decision-making ✅ Adapt your communication style to match your audience ✅ Deliver constructive feedback that inspires positive changes ✅ Handle difficult people and emotional conversations ✅ Gain buy-in and win people to your way of thinking Today, I use this framework to teach engineers how to develop an effortless leadership style that is directly aligned with your core values, natural personality, and unique strengths – as well as utilize these skills to your advantage in every area of your life! I post new episodes every week – SUBSCRIBE to my channel if you don’t want to miss out on any of these insights! Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 Intro 00:00:40 Why You Need to Take Action 00:02:41 Use Them as Motivation 00:07:00 Don’t Take it Personally 00:08:44 Kill Them With Kindness 00:09:38 Why These Techniques Work!

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#MentalHealth#WorkplaceWellness#ToxicWorkplaceDo you struggle with setting boundaries with difficult people at work? In this episode, you’ll learn a simple 5 step framework for how to navigate toxic co workers or managers affecting your mental health while establishing clear guidelines to protect your professional dignity. You’ll also discover the importance of setting boundaries to preserve your mental well-being, prevent burnout, and enhance productivity in challenging work environments. Explore practical examples and actionable insights to assert control over interactions, reduce stress, and foster healthier relationships at work. Dive into this comprehensive guide for a transformative approach to dealing with difficult individuals and reclaiming your professional space. – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – Are you an engineering manager or technical leader who’s ready to increase your impact and take your leadership skills to the next level? Book a FREE Connection Call with me! https://doughowardcoaching.as.me/Conn… Links Mentioned: 🤝 How to Quickly Build Relationships With Anyone | The Secret to Winning Friends, Influencing People    • How to Quickly Build Relationships Wi…   🫣 How to Influence Without Authority at Work [Persuasion – Part 1 of 3]    • How to Influence Without Authority at…   🤝 5 Keys to Navigating Difficult Conversations at Work | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers    • 5 Keys to Navigating Difficult Conver…   🤝 How to Deal with Difficult Employee as a New Manager | Advice for Engineering Leaders    • How to Deal with Difficult Employee a…   😡 How to Deal With a Toxic Boss Without Quitting | Do These 3 Things | Advice from Engineering Manager    • How to Deal With a Toxic Boss Without…   😫 7 Steps to Recover from Engineering Burnout | Advice from an Engineering Manager    • 7 Steps to Recover from Engineering B…   🔥🔥 FREE MINI MASTERCLASS on MASTERING CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK 🔥🔥 Remove the guesswork and stress by learning this proven framework for providing constructive feedback that drives real growth and empowers your engineering team! https://doughowardcoaching.clickfunne… 📰 Subscribe to my email newsletter LEADING ENGINEERS – for the best tips, tools, and insights SPECIFICALLY FOR ENGINEERING LEADERS https://doughowardcoaching.clickfunne… More Ways to Connect: 🤝 LinkedIn:   / doughowardcoaching   🌐 Web-Site: https://doughowardcoaching.com/ 📧 Email: Doug@DougHowardCoaching.com #Boundaries#ToxicWorkplace#MentalHealth#SettingBoundaries#WorkplaceWellness#ProfessionalBoundaries#Leadership#HealthyWorkEnvironment#SoftSkills#CommunicationSkills#ToxicCoworkers#HandlingDifficultPeople About Me: I’m Doug Howard PE and I help engineering managers and leaders increase their impact by showing them how to influence, motivate, and inspire all types of people in any situation – professionally and personally! Leadership requires a whole different skill set that many engineers are never taught – because in most cases, you don’t have any positive role models to learn from. This is why I developed my own leadership training framework around understanding human behavior and psychology – so that you can: ✅ Influence without having authority ✅ Understand and deal with all types of people ✅ Motivate people’s behavior and decision-making ✅ Adapt your communication style to match your audience ✅ Deliver constructive feedback that inspires positive changes ✅ Handle difficult people and emotional conversations ✅ Gain buy-in and win people to your way of thinking Today, I use this framework to teach engineers how to develop an effortless leadership style that is directly aligned with your core values, natural personality, and unique strengths – as well as utilize these skills to your advantage in every area of your life! I post new episodes every week – SUBSCRIBE to my channel if you don’t want to miss out on any of these insights! Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 INTRO 00:00:37 What Does Setting Boundaries Mean? 00:06:18 5 Step Framework for Setting Boundaries with People 00:06:35 Step 1 – Objectively Assess the Situation 00:07:45 Step 2 – Plan to Establish Your Boundaries 00:08:06 3 – Effectively Communicate Clear Boundaries 00:09:57 Step 4 – Consistently Reinforce Your Boundaries with Them 00:11:29 Reinforce Your Boundaries with People LIKE THIS 00:12:49 Step 5 – Seek Support When Needed 00:13:36 Real Life Examples for Setting Boundaries 00:14:06 Setting Boundaries with Your Micromanager Boss 00:17:14 Setting Boundaries with Coworker who Takes Credit for Your Work 00:19:50 Setting Boundaries with Negative Gossip in a Toxic Work Environment 00:22:12 Setting Boundaries with Someone Who Invades Your Personal Space 00:26:13 Setting Boundaries to Get Out of Time Wasting Meetings